Gary’s Story

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April 13, 2012 Gary’s life was forever changed. I received a call that nobody ever wants to answer. On that day I instantly went from having an independent, healthy, outgoing, 18 year-old son to having a son who was barely holding onto life. I didn’t even know the accident happened and I was only three blocks away from him!

He was airlifted to UNM Hospital after being involved in a tragic motorcycle accident. When I arrived at UNMH and after waiting about 7 long, painful hours, I was told Gary was injured severely, and would not likely survive through the night. I’ve heard of stories and have known of people involved in accidents but I never ever imagined it could happen to me…not to my son. I am a living testament that it can happen. My world was turned upside down, Gary’s little sister Kenidie was devastated, and all of our entire family’s lives were forever changed on that day as well. No child, no family should ever have to endure the pain and suffering we have gone through.

This is Gary’s story

The next couple weeks immediately following Gary’s accident, he was given no hope of survival. Several specialists and surgeons said Gary would not live and if he did, he would be alive only with the use of machines that would be keeping him alive. I was told to consider organ donation as that was Gary’s choice which was noted on his driver’s license. I couldn’t bear the thought. I was told at one point that “Gary’s spirit was gone and only his body remained,” all in an effort to help me make the decision to donate his organs. The doctors didn’t know Gary’s strength and perseverance like I did; they didn’t know that he would never give up! I was not ready to give up on him either despite what I was told.

One morning I heard the words I desperately longed for. Gary’s neurosurgeon told me of recent activity in his brain. That was the best news I heard since the accident. I knew from that moment on, I was not alone in Gary’s fight to keep him alive. It was going to be the biggest fight of our life but we were ready to fight and we would never give up!! We had a huge mountain to move. If it took us moving it one granule of sand at a time, we were going to move it!!!

Gary had multiple internal injuries; he had a traumatic brain injury, his lungs were punctured and collapsed and he required a ventilator to breathe, he had numerous broken bones and a crushed pelvis. He has had over 30 surgeries and procedures including removing the left side of his skull and having it replaced with a titanium mesh plate, reconstructing of his bones, and having many plates and pins permanently attached to his body. The accident left Gary with a TBI and right hemiparesis.

I stayed with Gary the entire year he was hospitalized and watched as machines breathed for him, as they poked him hundreds of times for blood draws and IV’s, as they came in every 15 minutes, then 30 and so on to check his vitals, as they gave him medications, fed him through his G-tube, and as they shined a flash light in his eyes to check for pupil dilation. My sleeping Angel just lay there unconscious, without any movement for months.

After Gary was stable enough to leave the trauma unit at UNMH, he was sent to a long-term acute care facility. I was also given very little hope there and was told to consider the possibly putting Gary in a nursing home. They said he would not progress any further, and that he “plateaued.” That is a term used when a patient will no longer make any improvement and or progress. I vowed to give up my life to take care of him before I’d even consider such a thing!!

A miracle happened one morning when the doctor walked in and told me Gary was going to be transferred to Carrie Tingley Children’s Hospital. Carrie Tingley is an inpatient rehabilitation hospital where Gary would finally be able to start getting the therapy he needed. I couldn’t believe what I heard after hearing such disappointing news every time I spoke with the doctors. My prayers were answered! For the first time since his accident I was given what had never been given to me before…HOPE.

Gary was hospitalized at Carrie Tingley for five months. We had a great experience there as he was treated though he WAS going to recover and everyone around us shared in my hopes of recovery for Gary. All of the staff was wonderful! And Gary’s therapists, OT/PT were amazing beyond words. They all helped Gary progress and helped me heal as well. It was the most difficult time of my life. Miraculously, Gary started to smile again at Carrie Tingley Hospital.

Eventually Gary transferred to  Craig Hospital located in Englewood, CO. Craig Hospital specializes in neuro-rehabilitation for patients with Traumatic Brain Injuries and Spinal Cord Injuries. He was able to go there once he had made a significant amount of progress and was able to participate in the extensive therapy Craig Hospital offers. He stayed at Craig hospital for another five months. That hospital was also an excellent facility. The staff, the environment and the therapy Gary received was phenomenal. The extensive therapy Gary received helped him progress even further and the plan was for Gary to go home rather than having to go to yet another hospital or medical facility. Craig helped me to learn more about Gary’s injury and by giving me the proper training to be able to care for Gary when the time came to actually go home. It was a very exciting but scary time for us. But after a year of being in the hospital, we were very anxious and ready to go home. We were going to be faced with many challenges,  have many obstacles along our journey of recovery and somehow I was going to have to prepare for life transforming changes once we got back home.

Today Gary is 19 and it’s been almost two years post injury. He still continues to make progress. He is still undergoing a tremendous amount of therapy on a regular basis and he is in school preparing to graduate as his accident prevented that from happening. Although Gary cannot talk, he can communicate by various means. He has been learning sign language and thanks to the use of technology, he can communicate with the use of his iPad, a laptop and a Dynavox. His favorite pastime is being with his family and friends. He adores his little sister Kenidie who will be turning 6 very soon. He loves listening to country music and going to live concerts. He enjoys caring for his pit bulls that he has had prior to the accident and most recently, he has been very happy, with a non-stop smile from ear to ear with the courageous act his Cousin Katrina performed for him at this year’s Pro Bowl.

Thank you for taking the time to learn more about Gary and reading his story. We would also like to thank you for all the prayers, support and love you have sent us since his accident and during his recovery. We still have a long way to go…as I was told, “This is a marathon, not a race.” I will continue to do everything possible to see that Gary receives the best care, therapy, and technology to help him further progress.  I will continue to be the best advocate for Gary and together we will move our mountain, regardless of what it takes!!! And most importantly, this is a learning process and we may not always get it right but, we will NEVER GIVE UP!!!!

Much love and blessings to you all!!

Gary, Melissa, and Kenidie
Our Family

 

11 Comments

  1. stephenmiami
    Feb 03, 2014 @ 17:34:45

    hello Gary and Katrina, how are you? I really was touched by Gary’s story and his amazing recovery so far. with God all things are possible, never give up that is the motto! If we hang in there and have faith the mountains can be moved. As a wheelchair bound person I am familiar with the surgeries, theraphies and faith that’s required to get stronger every day. I just hope that this Posting would bring a smile to Gary’s face and to his cousin Katrina’s face as well. You all have a friend here in Miami Florida. God bless you all! Let’s keep in touch! God bless everyone!

    Sincerely Stephen M.

    • Melissa Esquibel
      Feb 21, 2014 @ 21:33:07

      Stephen–thank you for sharing and for putting a smile on Gary’s face. You can understand the hardships Gary faces daily but his faith is strong and he NEVER GIVES UP!! We will pray for you as well, that you continue to progress and keep the faith to keep getting through your days. Thanks for stopping to visit and we will keep in touch. God bless you!

  2. Alexandra Lebeau
    Feb 06, 2014 @ 17:49:17

    Gary I am so happy with the progress you have made. My prayers forever will be with you. You always know how too make everyone around you smile. I am also very proud of you for never giving up!!! God bless you and your family ♡♥

    • Melissa Esquibel
      Feb 21, 2014 @ 21:36:38

      Thank you Alex for your kind message :) Gary is very happy to hear from you. I’m in agreement with you about Gary knowng how to make everyone around him smile, his smile is contagions. Thank you for your prayers and may God bless you!

  3. elbigjim
    Feb 17, 2014 @ 19:11:12

    Dude…. your story is amazing and i’m happy that you have such a great supporting cast. Very amazing what you have been thru and still fighting and still smiling. You are a testament of never giving up. Happy Birthday and keep pushing thru man. You are one of Life’s great heroes. I support TEAMGARY! @elbigjim

    • Melissa Esquibel
      Feb 21, 2014 @ 21:43:49

      Thank you so much for your support and for such an awesome comment for Gary. These are the inspiring words that help him along his journey and his fight to NEVER GIVE UP!! We appreciate you being a part of TEAMGARY :)

  4. greg lopez
    Feb 17, 2014 @ 22:30:39

    Happy Birthday!

    • Melissa Esquibel
      Feb 21, 2014 @ 21:45:03

      Gary says “thank you!” It was a very special day for him. Thank you for stopping by to visit his page. God bless you!

  5. asimpleman4life
    Feb 22, 2014 @ 11:03:47

    Hey Gary how’s it going . Thought I would drop you a few lines after reading a story today In the El Paso Times newspaper about what your cousin Katrina Torres did at the Pro Bowl game in Hawaii. She did what she did out of love for you and in my book that means everything. Aside from Katrina being a total hottie she undeniably is a very big, kind-hearted person who has so much love for you. I ride a motorcycle and love being in the wind, I am involved with the motorcycle coalition here in El Paso, Texas and support any and all situations involving fellow brother and sisters in the wind. I’m sorry to hear about your accident , but know one thing Gary “you’re a survivor” !! My heart goes out to you and your family for never giving up, continue to fight brother. I will keep you all in my prayers and as I’m sure you’ve given thanks for so many different things that have occurred since your unfortuneate accident. Never forget about the true blessing that you have in Katrina, she without a doubt is god send. All my best to you guys. Robert ” PitBull” Alvarez .

  6. margie hobby
    Mar 01, 2014 @ 02:55:25

    Dear Gary, Your Grama Marcie & I have been friends since the 80s, then recently reconnected. I knew your pretty mom, Missy, when she was a child in Vegas. I loved your Great Grama Aggie & visited her when I lived in Vegas too. I was proud of your cousin Katrina when I saw her on TV during that pro bowl in Hawaii–brave action to support you and others in your condition. I am happy it put a smile on your face & gave you pleasure! I so admire your entire family for uniting and helping each other during your ordeal. I just bought a support shirt from your sweet Grama & I hope to meet you in the near future & I hope to introduce my 7 year old great niece to your little sister. I do volunteer work as a tutor at 2 schools & work w/1st and 2nd graders in reading. I pray God gives you all courage and energy all your lives. You are all in my prayers. Blessings!

  7. NAVYCORPSMANElPasoTX
    Apr 16, 2014 @ 21:09:31

    Keep on inspiring brother! Ine saying that we say in the military is “Stay in the fight” and beleive me, you have and continue to. Semper Fi Gary! We got your back!

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